Finding Ways To Feel Happy: Letting Go Of Negative Feelings Towards Others

“Holding on to negative feelings and past circumstances is like placing a lock on your soul.”
― Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life

Well….  true, feelings are subjective and valid within a belief system that is your own.

I recently discovered that I am a feeling based person which might have increased a tad once I became a mother.     However I believe that our feelings are our instinct warning us what is right and what is wrong according to the values we have instilled in us.   My feelings are and will be different from another, yet my feelings are valid for my self according to what I believe in.

There is always a danger in feeling too stronger feelings (especially negative , hateful ones) and hanging on to those feelings.  They tend to suck your happiness away.  To maintain happiness we need to let go of our extreme hateful feelings and replace them with neutral or more positive ones.

I have learnt fist hand, that giving into the negative feelings and hanging on to them can harm your own happiness and/or other’s.  For example I have very strong negative feelings towards two people that came into my life as a result of marriage.  They just do not have the same values as me and the things they have done in the past had generated long lasting extremely negative repulsive feelings towards them.  If  I show my real feelings towards them I can hurt the ones I love the most.   Not only that, showing those negative feelings towards someone and actually feeling them ruins my happiness, increases my anxiety which is bad for my health and well being.   I had gotten worse with time and not better at handling those repulsive feelings towards them.  Everything they do I see it in a negative light.  Something had to be done for my sanity…

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Free Theme Park Entry Gold Coast Australia

Free theme park entry anyone?

Early May we went over to the Gold Coast for a 5 day mini break with the kids.  We stayed and the Whyndham apartments at Surfers Paradise for the first 3 nights and had to find a place for the 4th night.  We knew we wanted to go to Sea World with our 3 and 5 year olds, so we decided to looked into Sea World Resort.  We found out that they have a red hot deal valid from 26th April – 13th July 2015 which gives a family free entry to the theme parks when you book a hotel room at the Sea World Resort.

The RED HOT DEAL includes:

  • Unlimited entry to Sea World, Warner Bros. Movie World and Wet’n’Wild Gold Coast during your stay
  • Free entry to Paradise Country
  • 25% off Kids Club evening sessions
  • 25% off all food & beverage purchased at the Resort
  • 10% off all food, beverage and retail merchandise at Sea World, Warner Bros. Movie World and Wet’n’Wild Gold Coast
  • 25% off selected Sea World Animal Adventures
  • 25% off Sea World Helicopters
  • Buy 1 SpongeBob Bag and get 1 free

If you are interested you can check out the RED HOT DEAL at Sea World Resort.

Our take on the Sea World resort

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Free Entry to the Theme Parks when you stay at the Sea World Resort

Sea World Resort is next door to sea world theme park so you could just walk in or take the monorail to Sea World without a problem.  We had a pram and either option was great for us.  If you are using public transportation to get to Sea World Resort, You have to walk about 800m from the last bus stop near Sea World entrance to the reception at Sea World resort.

The rooms are a bit dated especially the bathrooms, but the deal we got was good enough to ignore that!

Our kids thoroughly enjoyed the time at the Sea World Resort they enjoyed the amazing pools and Nickelodeon Water Park for kids.  It lights up at night, but it was  bit too cold for us to get out in the water at night time (there were other brave kids doing just that though).

Fun at the water park
Fun at the water park

Us as a family enjoyed the Friday night sea food buffet at The Shoreline.  It was a $74.99 per head and kids under 3 were free and kids over 4 incurred a $1 per year charge.  They had a great variety of food and desserts.  It was worth what we paid  as you got a discount with the red hot deal!

There are four dining options at the resort

  1. The Shoreline restaurant
  2. Lobby lounge
  3. Hatsuhana, Japanese restaurant
  4. Waterfall cafe near the pool

And the Marina Mirage Shopping Centre with more eating and shopping options were not too far away from the resort (may be 1.3Km)we walked there for breakfast and enjoyed a real nice breakfast at the Providore Mirage a French style bakery/cafe/grocer that has amazing patisserie and breakfast.

All in all we really enjoyed the one night we stayed at the resort 4/5 with this red hot deal.  We only wished we had known about this deal earlier so we could have stayed a couple of nights to make use of the unlimited theme park entry passes.

Five Tips for the New WordPresser

I am New to Blogging…. this article has some great tips and learning material for any newbie. So here it is I hope this helps you out too.
The world of blogging is vast…. lets learn it slowly!

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Each week, we’re beyond fortunate to have thousands of new people join the WordPress.com community. (Hi there, and welcome! You’ll find cold beverages right next to the hot tub under the disco ball — make yourself at home!)

In our Community Pool feature — an open discussion thread for questions and feedback that runs each and every Monday — we often see comments like these:

“I’m new here and I’m not sure about x…”

“I’m a baby WordPresser and I’d like to know how to x…”

“I just started my blog last week and…”

Being new isn’t always the most comfy feeling. Here are five tips to help you gain confidence and get situated as you embark on your new blogging habit.

1. Establish your identity: get a Gravatar

Your Gravatar is the little photo of you that appears by any comment you make while logged into WordPress.com…

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How I Turned My Passion Hobby Craft Into An Online Business

Why online a business you ask?   Well for me it is able to offer the flexibility I am after with my two kids, work when I can, wherever I want to (so it depends on the sort of work hobby).  I love to see the world and be able to travel, so an online business where I don’t have to be going to work to open a shop and  I can do my “work”  from wherever I am is ideal for me.

These Days anyone can start their own business with a little or no help from others.  We have a vast amount of helpful tools and websites available on the internet to do that.  All we need is some time…

Kookki Designs is my hobby turned business.  You can visit my Etsy shop for a bit of a look!

My goal was to do something that I had control over while being able to give my time to my family.  I wanted to do something that felt right in my heart to earn some money to support my families growing needs while having enough time to travel and see the world with my kids as well as teach my children the values I believe in.

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.”-Steve Jobs

A bit a bout my online business

I design and create a wide range of jewellery and accessories for kids, women and men to suit any occasion including weddings. Each piece is made in my home studio in Melbourne, Australia. The range of products I make include cuff-links, earrings,  necklaces, pendants, rings, hair clips.  Each piece is made at my home studio in Melbourne, Australia.

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My Home Studio

Many of us living in the developed countries have most basic things that humans “NEED” and much much more, I have always treasured the priceless moments in my life are that became beautiful memories later.  With my jewellery I capture one’s memories in the form of a place, a person,  word/s etc.  I get to spend time making this wonderful item for some one special with so much care.  I can be rewarded with knowing that my item can give someone that warm fuzzy feeling called happiness.  Not only giving something special is rewarding for both parties giving and receiving,  it will also mean so much more purely for the fact that the time and effort spent in getting something really unique handmade especially for a loved one.

Kids Photo Jewellery
Kids Photo Jewellery
Kids Photo Cufflinks
Kids Photo Cufflinks

That is exactly what I love doing with my jewellery where I help people either freeze a moment in their life like a birth of a child, a wedding or to create one of a kind super special gifts for the ones they love. The fact that I am able to let someone feel such a strong feeling like pure happiness or appreciation (by receiving of giving something that no words can convey) is truly a rewarding and emotional privilege.

At Kookki Designs my favourite designs are the one’s I create for someone with much meaning behind it.  Whether it is a special photo of a person or a place or a scan of their kids drawings or a special saying for their husband or wife (to be) or a parent.  These are the ones that I get a real warm fuzzy feeling about my self.  I feel in doing what I do I manage to remind ourselves that we are simple creatures that enjoy simple pleasures of life and if we support each other we can make this world a better place keeping the harmonious balance on this planet.  I take my hats off to the Etsy community that is building in numbers.  Most of the Etsy sellers are following their hearts and using their talent to help them live the lives they believe they should.

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Personlised Jewellery
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By Having my own  Etsy store I get to treat every person that comes to my shop and contact me with love and care with my goal of making the world a happier place (while being able to be an old-school mother to my children).

I love what I am able to do with my jewellery and I sincerely hope I get to make your moments extra special by capturing them in a wearable accessory which will give you a warm fuzzy feeling every time you see them.

“There is an undeniable happiness one can obtain by making someone else happy.  That is what I call rewarding!”- Shani

Here is a guide to starting your very own online business with my experience selling handmade jewellery

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6 Tips for going Shopping with Toddlers

Who knew going shopping needs tips? Well it can be a mission going shopping with your toddlers, trust me I know first hand!.  I’ll get straight into it…. Below are some tried and tested rules that I have for  myself.

Have A Stroller Handy
Have A Stroller Handy

Rule 1: Do not forget the stroller!!! If you have a Tot that complains about his/her tired legs when having to walk, it is a life saver to have your child strapped in the stroller as you walk around inside the shops.  They can be kept entertained by giving them a toy to play with, hanging clothing items, women paying attention to them and of course you playing peekaboo here and there.  It is also easier to keep them in a stroller if and when you decide to try on clothing.

Rule 2:  Have toilet breaks for older potty trained Tots.  Well generally 1st one being at home just before you leave.   Do not forget to ask and get them to go after a couple of hours shopping when you see an opportunity, even if they say they may not need to go 🙂  It’s better that they go in a toilet than having to do a marathon run to a toilet when they can’t hold it anymore.

Happy Shoppers
Happy Shoppers

Rule 3:  Get them involved in the shopping fun.  Listen to their questions and answer them, tell them what you are looking for, and ask them questions as well.   This will let them know what you are doing at the shops which can help them stay calmer and understand whats happening a bit better.  This way you can turn shopping into an educational learning experience for them (as with anything you do) which will make the whole shopping activity into a bonding activity where your little one will feel like you are listening to them and are spending quality time with them (which you are!).

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Rewarded with a healthy snack for good behaviour

Rule 4: If you want to reward them with a ride for their good behaviour (or just because you do), do this activity at the very END when you are about to leave the shops to get back in the car.  It is also a good idea to prep them beforehand,  saying if they behave well during shopping they will be rewarded with one ride.  Rewarding can work miracles, now the reward does not have to be a ride or a food item it can be a positive praise for behaving so well, yes it also works if not better because they feel so proud to hear that mummy/daddy thought so highly of their behaviour and that may work next time too (fingers crossed).  we sometimes stop at a play ground or have a healthy snack as a reward and generally they work well.  Be careful of those shopping center rides and buying reward toys, if they get used to that habit they can work against you as you go past those items.  It is always good to keep varying your rewards to avoid possible tantrum situations.

Babyccino Break
A Babyccino Break

Rule 5:  What works well with my children is breaking the trip up with little breaks where you spend some time with them changing the scene  a bit.  May be a little babyccino stop, or a little play stop.  Of course set the limits before you tell them to go have fun at the play area,  that it is a 15minute play session and that when you finish your coffee we are getting back in the stroller for another walk.   As long as you prep them well the resistance you get from them will be less.  If you hear them complaining remind them what you mentioned earlier and say that was the rule.

Rule 6: Stick to your rules (most important rule for a parent to adhere to!!).  If you told them you are going to put them back in the stroller after you finished the coffee do it.  When kids know you are serious and you keep to your word they respect what you say and listen to you.  If you are going to give into their demands then you will always have to put up with tantrums and feel tired and exhausted at the end of it.

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But there are times when your child is absolutely tired and none of these rules work.  If all they want to do is cry and throw tantrums it is better off getting that tired little person to have a nap and postpone the shopping trip to another day when you know they will be well rested.   But  if you must go shopping on that same day do it after giving your little one time to have a bit of a rest, it will make such a positive impact on the whole shopping experience for both the parent and child.

I hope this helps you handle that (sometimes) dreadful trip to the shops with your little bundles of joy.   Just go with your gut feel, no point in making yourself or your child get stressed out over shopping:)

5 Family Adventures On A Budget, Melbourne, Australia

We don’t need to travel too far or burn a hole in our wallets to have an adventure with kids.  If you live in Melbourne, Australia and you have young kids there are lots of adventures to be had just in our back yards.  I have discovered some free/low cost activities that we can do with our young kids to keep their adventurous spirits high, their minds active and have fun filled family days for some good old quality time spending.

Here are my top 5 suggestions for a family adventure on a budget in and around Melbourne….

  1. Caribbean Gardens- Free train rides during their “Babes to Kids” Market held on the first and third Friday of every month, is a great hit with toddlers and younger kids.  Free train rides take place between 9.am-11am during the Babes to kids Market days.   Continue reading