“Holding on to negative feelings and past circumstances is like placing a lock on your soul.”
― Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life
Well…. true, feelings are subjective and valid within a belief system that is your own.
I recently discovered that I am a feeling based person which might have increased a tad once I became a mother. However I believe that our feelings are our instinct warning us what is right and what is wrong according to the values we have instilled in us. My feelings are and will be different from another, yet my feelings are valid for my self according to what I believe in.
There is always a danger in feeling too stronger feelings (especially negative , hateful ones) and hanging on to those feelings. They tend to suck your happiness away. To maintain happiness we need to let go of our extreme hateful feelings and replace them with neutral or more positive ones.
I have learnt fist hand, that giving into the negative feelings and hanging on to them can harm your own happiness and/or other’s. For example I have very strong negative feelings towards two people that came into my life as a result of marriage. They just do not have the same values as me and the things they have done in the past had generated long lasting extremely negative repulsive feelings towards them. If I show my real feelings towards them I can hurt the ones I love the most. Not only that, showing those negative feelings towards someone and actually feeling them ruins my happiness, increases my anxiety which is bad for my health and well being. I had gotten worse with time and not better at handling those repulsive feelings towards them. Everything they do I see it in a negative light. Something had to be done for my sanity…