Giving Project 1

One of my goals was to give to the kids who needs help in getting an education, as I believe education is key to a poverty free world….  here are some pictures from our first project at a very rural school in Sri Lanka.  Arawatta school in Mahiyangana, Sri Lanka.

We were able to give all 155 children in this school books, pens, pencils, ant other stationary and class room essentials as well as some food items.  The wonderful principal and teacher team here does an amazing job!!!

The kids and the teachers were very thank full, and we will continue to support this school in the future.

Let your heart guide you to happiness

I decide to live my dream, and let the kids have an education like no other!

Only 3 weeks and 4 days away to go to start my year away with kids.   I feel organised but there is always that little voice telling you there is something I have missed even with my  multiple lists.  I have many lists for packing  and things we need to do before we leave.  I carry this little note book around to jot down things that just pops up as they do while doing something totally random like shopping.  I also have a few spreadsheets with lists and things to do and places we need to go (I will put these up on another post).

The logistics of taking a whole lot of things for the kids to live in another country for over 6 months is a bit complex.  Given that I am traveling with two kids without my husband, I can’t carry much luggage, so most things have to be shipped.  Having shipping companies that lets you ship boxes full of stuff is really helpful.  I have organised 3 tea chest size (45cmX45cmX60cm) boxes (cost $90) to be shipped with things like books, toys, nappies, food items the kids are familiar with until they get used to eating local food, and cloths and other items to giveaway to people there etc.   I was hoping to take a lot more like my jewelry making things but looks like there will be no space left for that in the three boxes I had to bring home to pack up.    I will have to get some more boxes to send more things to be given away to needy schools over there.

I am looking forward to showing my kids the world and hoping they will appreciate it and be part of my charity work in Sri Lanka.  The charity part of this trip is something that I have been wanting to do for a long time, and I am glad I finally am doing something about it.  you can read more about it on my blog. I just have to follow my heart,  if I think more and more about this it will never eventuate, so hear I am feeling happy to follow one of my dream.

Still  need to make more money to support this en-devour of mine so I am auctioning all my left over jewelry

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to raise more funds.  All products will be listed with a starting price of $2 (Australian).  Hope I can raise more funds within the next 3 weeks.   I realise that I do not have much time left, so whatever I can do now will help expedite my projects and have them established before I leave for Europe.    Wish me luck! 🙂

Some Items up for auction at Kookki Designs Facebook age
  Some Items up for auction at Kookki Designs Facebook age

Happiness Anyone? How we can learn from/with our kids

Are we, the grown ups, responsible for destroying the happiness in this world?

We make our kids do things they are not willing at times ( getting ready to go to school in the morning is a classic example),  we make them listen to us making them do things that they reallu rather not (naturally they think we know what we are doing and eventualy unwillingly they have to listen to us st the end). Do we ever stop and really appreciating what they, our kids have to teach us?  They actually can teach us a thing or two if we pay attention, they are unspoilt little humans.   They don’t stress over things unless we make a big deal about something that doesn’t even matter sometimes. They enjoy the tiniest (in adults opinion, useless) things like sticks, leaves even empty boxes. They try to find happinesd and joy in anything they come across. No rules, the only rule being have fun while being sensitive to others feelings.

I feel that childlike happiness is a gift, that is a feeling of true happiness. As we grow old we are taught more responsibility, which is fine, but why do most people have to let go of that pure happiness and embrace lesder values such as selfishness, stress and competitiveness. It is sad isn’t it?

I watch my kids giggle and play, be in a world of their own being happy. When asked “what do you want to do today?”, they sometimes say “just stay home and play” eith a smile. Which makes me realise the best things in life are really free. I must admit I managed to be more like a child till I had my own children. Now I have become somewhat “grownup”, which means stressed out more and less fun. I do think it’s to do with feeling tired ( as I feel I will never catchup on the years of sleepless nights raising young kids).

Watching my kids made me realise that I need to go back to that happy state again. Life is all about feeling happy and joy, isn’t it?

So I find my self asking what is it that I can do to really be happy. Non of the material things pops into my head, for me it is a life filled with exciting adventures with my family. Teaching my kids about the real world, the values of kindness and caring, learning to live respecting ourselves and the people and things around us. And to see my kids grow up with humble values that can make the world a better place to live.

So I am afraid my husband calls me a dreamer, as I don’t believe in the “conventional” ways of doing things. I have formed different opinions about the current ways of human living. I seriously feel trapped in this society. I face things and people that I find me asking the question “why?”, all the time. To me I find people have become more selfish and overly competitive to the point we as a human raise are loosing the grip on reality. To me humans are not being “smart” we are being brainwashed. I honestly feel that our world is run by companies/politicians for their own gain. It is a game of marketing things, it seems anything can and will be marketed so well (to their targeted market). These marketeers gets into the human phyc figure out the weaknesses of their target market then they say what they want to hear. Alot of us gets conned into believing them or if not it manges to enter our subconscious to later influence our decisions. So essentially they manage us humans from thinking for ourselves either knowingly or subconsciously we are influenced. Is it just me who feels like this? Surely not… I see a few people on social media saying similar things, and that makes me feel like there is a chance of being free from tjiz narket driven materialistic world. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for setting goals and reaching them, but in doing so we should not let go of our values that makes us smart humans. Smart enough to learn from our mistakes and look after things and be kind to each other and the world we live in ( who knows how long this world will be here as we know it, it is a ball of rotating elements and energy after all).

So getting back to my dreams, I felt the need to let go of the need to make money (say for retirement or for kids) and my materialistic things in my life, and travel the world to grow closer as a family, as a way of teaching my children about the world, people and cultures, and what we should think about as humans in terms of survival of our kind and the rest of the world that makes it possible for us to live on this earth. Not live a short sighted life but a life that supports many other lives.

Most kids if they have not been influenced by TV, Internet or magazines they tend to be more happy and eager to learn and experience new things. But if they get obsessed with things like TV their own imagination dissappears and they become people who want things that they are told will find happiness (smiley faces on TV brainwashing them to want things thag adds no value) if they have this and that toy. So as parents I believe we need to be more responsible bringing up our future generations with more instilled values with a sense of our real human qualities and less of this materialistic brain numbing stuff. Wouldn’t it be better to teach them to be kind and loving to themselves and every one and everything on this planet, be unselfish, be happy, be able to see marketing for what it is ( making money for some giant company), be smart thinkers, not get caught up in a fake made up world of glamor living, be real, be true to themselves and others, live a peaceful uncompetitive life helping others in need?

For the love of humsnity, am I wrong to hope for this?

10 Favourite Travel Quotes

I love a good quote!  Even better when it’s about something that I am passionate about.  Here are my top 10 favourite travel quotes.

1. “Not all those who wander are lost.”
J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

2. “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Lao Tzu

3.“To move, to breathe, to fly, to float,
To gain all while you give,
To roam the roads of lands remote,
To travel is to live.”
Hans Christian Andersen, The Fairy Tale of My Life: An Autobiography

4.“Now more than ever do I realize that I will never be content with a sedentary life, that I will always be haunted by thoughts of a sun-drenched elsewhere.”
Isabelle Eberhardt, The Nomad: The Diaries of Isabelle Eberhardt

5. “The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.”
Augustine of Hippo

6.“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
Ernest Hemingway

7. “Wherever you go becomes a part of you somehow.”
Anita Desai

8. “One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.”
Henry Miller

9. “See the world. It’s more fantastic than any dream made or paid for in factories. Ask for no guarantees, ask for no security.”
Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451

10.“She is free in her wildness, she is a wanderess, a drop of free water. She knows nothing of borders and cares nothing for rules or customs. ‘Time’ for her isn’t something to fight against. Her life flows clean, with passion, like fresh water.” ― Roman Payne

You can find brilliantly wonderful quotes at Goodreads.com.

What is your favourite travel quote?

Finding Ways To Feel Happy: Letting Go Of Negative Feelings Towards Others

“Holding on to negative feelings and past circumstances is like placing a lock on your soul.”
― Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life

Well….  true, feelings are subjective and valid within a belief system that is your own.

I recently discovered that I am a feeling based person which might have increased a tad once I became a mother.     However I believe that our feelings are our instinct warning us what is right and what is wrong according to the values we have instilled in us.   My feelings are and will be different from another, yet my feelings are valid for my self according to what I believe in.

There is always a danger in feeling too stronger feelings (especially negative , hateful ones) and hanging on to those feelings.  They tend to suck your happiness away.  To maintain happiness we need to let go of our extreme hateful feelings and replace them with neutral or more positive ones.

I have learnt fist hand, that giving into the negative feelings and hanging on to them can harm your own happiness and/or other’s.  For example I have very strong negative feelings towards two people that came into my life as a result of marriage.  They just do not have the same values as me and the things they have done in the past had generated long lasting extremely negative repulsive feelings towards them.  If  I show my real feelings towards them I can hurt the ones I love the most.   Not only that, showing those negative feelings towards someone and actually feeling them ruins my happiness, increases my anxiety which is bad for my health and well being.   I had gotten worse with time and not better at handling those repulsive feelings towards them.  Everything they do I see it in a negative light.  Something had to be done for my sanity…

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Happy Mother’s Day!

In Australia we celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday of May.  So today 10th of May 2015 is Mother’s Day here.

So here is a real heart felt wish for all the mothers, past, present and future; Happy Mother’s Day today and every day!!

For the first time I have received my fully hand drawn card from my 3 year old son.   It is a real treat to receive true love from your kids isn’t it?  His day care teacher told me how careful he was when he was making this card taking such meticulous care to make it perfect for mummy and she said to treasure that memory of him.   It almost brought me to tears the way he tried keeping it a secret but really badly wanting to tel me that he had something special for me and how he really meant his “I Love you Mummy” with a squishy cuddle for me.

I only understood what unconditional love really meant the day I held my first born in my hands for the first time which is a moment I will never forget.  My true happiness is my children ( If you don’t know I have two, one girl, 5 and one boy, 3) and they have the ability to make me happy just by looking at them.  So today I am planning to just spend my time with them,  which is what I am going to do just as soon as I finish this quick post 🙂

Being a mother is a wonderful gift that no one can take away from you…… ever.   So celebrate it and enjoy all the things only  a mother could feel….

Here is the card from Callum my 3year old, wishing me a happy mother’s day… according to his words  he is  “shaking his bottom” on the card 🙂

Happy Mother's Day
Happy Mother’s Day!

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