Happiness Anyone? How we can learn from/with our kids

Are we, the grown ups, responsible for destroying the happiness in this world?

We make our kids do things they are not willing at times ( getting ready to go to school in the morning is a classic example),  we make them listen to us making them do things that they reallu rather not (naturally they think we know what we are doing and eventualy unwillingly they have to listen to us st the end). Do we ever stop and really appreciating what they, our kids have to teach us?  They actually can teach us a thing or two if we pay attention, they are unspoilt little humans.   They don’t stress over things unless we make a big deal about something that doesn’t even matter sometimes. They enjoy the tiniest (in adults opinion, useless) things like sticks, leaves even empty boxes. They try to find happinesd and joy in anything they come across. No rules, the only rule being have fun while being sensitive to others feelings.

I feel that childlike happiness is a gift, that is a feeling of true happiness. As we grow old we are taught more responsibility, which is fine, but why do most people have to let go of that pure happiness and embrace lesder values such as selfishness, stress and competitiveness. It is sad isn’t it?

I watch my kids giggle and play, be in a world of their own being happy. When asked “what do you want to do today?”, they sometimes say “just stay home and play” eith a smile. Which makes me realise the best things in life are really free. I must admit I managed to be more like a child till I had my own children. Now I have become somewhat “grownup”, which means stressed out more and less fun. I do think it’s to do with feeling tired ( as I feel I will never catchup on the years of sleepless nights raising young kids).

Watching my kids made me realise that I need to go back to that happy state again. Life is all about feeling happy and joy, isn’t it?

So I find my self asking what is it that I can do to really be happy. Non of the material things pops into my head, for me it is a life filled with exciting adventures with my family. Teaching my kids about the real world, the values of kindness and caring, learning to live respecting ourselves and the people and things around us. And to see my kids grow up with humble values that can make the world a better place to live.

So I am afraid my husband calls me a dreamer, as I don’t believe in the “conventional” ways of doing things. I have formed different opinions about the current ways of human living. I seriously feel trapped in this society. I face things and people that I find me asking the question “why?”, all the time. To me I find people have become more selfish and overly competitive to the point we as a human raise are loosing the grip on reality. To me humans are not being “smart” we are being brainwashed. I honestly feel that our world is run by companies/politicians for their own gain. It is a game of marketing things, it seems anything can and will be marketed so well (to their targeted market). These marketeers gets into the human phyc figure out the weaknesses of their target market then they say what they want to hear. Alot of us gets conned into believing them or if not it manges to enter our subconscious to later influence our decisions. So essentially they manage us humans from thinking for ourselves either knowingly or subconsciously we are influenced. Is it just me who feels like this? Surely not… I see a few people on social media saying similar things, and that makes me feel like there is a chance of being free from tjiz narket driven materialistic world. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for setting goals and reaching them, but in doing so we should not let go of our values that makes us smart humans. Smart enough to learn from our mistakes and look after things and be kind to each other and the world we live in ( who knows how long this world will be here as we know it, it is a ball of rotating elements and energy after all).

So getting back to my dreams, I felt the need to let go of the need to make money (say for retirement or for kids) and my materialistic things in my life, and travel the world to grow closer as a family, as a way of teaching my children about the world, people and cultures, and what we should think about as humans in terms of survival of our kind and the rest of the world that makes it possible for us to live on this earth. Not live a short sighted life but a life that supports many other lives.

Most kids if they have not been influenced by TV, Internet or magazines they tend to be more happy and eager to learn and experience new things. But if they get obsessed with things like TV their own imagination dissappears and they become people who want things that they are told will find happiness (smiley faces on TV brainwashing them to want things thag adds no value) if they have this and that toy. So as parents I believe we need to be more responsible bringing up our future generations with more instilled values with a sense of our real human qualities and less of this materialistic brain numbing stuff. Wouldn’t it be better to teach them to be kind and loving to themselves and every one and everything on this planet, be unselfish, be happy, be able to see marketing for what it is ( making money for some giant company), be smart thinkers, not get caught up in a fake made up world of glamor living, be real, be true to themselves and others, live a peaceful uncompetitive life helping others in need?

For the love of humsnity, am I wrong to hope for this?

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