Giving Project 1

One of my goals was to give to the kids who needs help in getting an education, as I believe education is key to a poverty free world….  here are some pictures from our first project at a very rural school in Sri Lanka.  Arawatta school in Mahiyangana, Sri Lanka.

We were able to give all 155 children in this school books, pens, pencils, ant other stationary and class room essentials as well as some food items.  The wonderful principal and teacher team here does an amazing job!!!

The kids and the teachers were very thank full, and we will continue to support this school in the future.

Help A Charity Project In Sri Lanka: Educate The Children & Break The Poverty Cycle

My next long term travel destination is Sri Lanka,  my birth country!  I have booked tickets to head over in November.   I cant wait to take my kids there and  show  them a different part of world.  The plan is to live there with my kids for 6 months.  It will be me and my two kids, my husband can’t take time off this time round to go with us, but I have all my extended family there which gives me strength.

I cant help but feel the strong need to do something good when I am Si Lanka…. I have already begun collecting money for my charity project with a 30% off sale on my handmade online jewelry Etsy shop  Kookki Designs.  Please pop over to my Facebook page to share this sale with your online friends and family, I can guarantee that the money collected from now till November will be put into a good cause!

In Sri Lanka poverty is at 6.4%.  When you consider the population of 20 million, this number is quite significant.  According to and article on Sunday Times it is possible to have a poverty free Sri Lanka with a bit of help.  I know there are large charity organizations doing a lot of work, but a lot more giving and help is needed to overcome such a massive issue.  Most people who live in poverty are in villages and rural areas.  So I would like to visit these places, talk to the people, see the schools and get to the source of the problem which is education!

I have always wanted to be able to make a difference in the world in some small way I can.  One time, before kids, I went over to Sri Lanka on a short holiday with an idea to  set up a charity, I went to a village school where I encountered the saddest faces I have seen in my life.  It was heart wrenching to even see young kids feeling the weight of life, most kids didn’t even have anything to eat, and their faces told me stories that I knew if asked I would have been reduced down to tears.  So that time I walked away with setting up three bank accounts for three kids where they will get a $8 (Australian) per month each, yes that was all they needed to get what they needed to make it through school.  Can you believe it, You can change someone’s life with the cost of 2 coffees per month!!!!

The letters I get from my sponsored kids and seeing how well they are doing in school makes me really happy as if I am fulfilling a purpose in my life:)

I am writing this post with the intention of growing what I did by my self in a very small scale.  I want to be able to help many more kids that are in dire need and collectively make this world place that is better for everyone.  I feel quite passionate about setting up a charity so more people can help kids who are born into poverty.  And I know there are a lot of people that would like to help in someway!

This $8 a month per child sponsoring program should be affordable for many of us living a comfortable life in the developed countries.   How I set my little program was by setting up a committee in a school with a lot of children in need.  This committee consists of school principal and teachers who will act as the children’s guardians.  A bank account is then opened under each child that will be sponsored, but to access money for the  childrens’ needs the committee will have to act as their guardians till they turn 18.  The reason for a committee and not the parents acting as guardians is to protect the kids and their bank accounts as in most cases the very reason these kids are in poverty are the lack of education and planing skills of their parents who are addicted to alcohol and a poor way of life.   The aim of this sponsorship program is to break that poverty cycle by educating these kids.

This sponsorship program may come to fruition by setting up a website with profiles of the children needing help with a Paypal payment facility where the money can be transferred to the students bank account.  Or working with another established Charity organisation ( please let me know if you know of one that I can work with).  I have not yet figured out the nitty gritty, It will be a bit of work but I would love to see this project up and running next year.  Again any helpful ideas on this matter will be much appreciated!   I will keep you posted on my progress on this matter on this blog, Instagram and facebookpage.

This time when I go, I will have over 6 months to really work on a project or a few projects to make a difference while enjoying this beautiful part of the world.

These are some of my ideas, I need to research a lot more and with some more help and my Etsy shop money I hope to find ways to make these ideas a reality…

  1. A $8 a month sponsorship program for kids in extreme poverty, where the sponsors money goes straight to the child’s bank account and the sponsor gets correspondence from the child.
  2. Send money to buy and distribute basic school items like pens, pencils, books, rubbers, colour pencils directly to village schools
  3. Send our used clothes (summer clothes), shoes and bags to Sri Lanka and distribute them to poor village schools, orphanages and charity foundations in Sri Lanka
  4. Run a lunch program in very poor village schools to provide at least one meal for kids that go with nothing to eat (In Sri Lanka a simple lunch item will cost under a $1 per person).
  5. Set up a work space for women struggling to find work to support themselves and their families and let them manage and run it as a small business.

I would welcome any comments, suggestions or ideas on this topic.  Please feel free to let me know how and what ways you may be able to join or give me helpful ideas to make a difference in Sri Lanka!

Happiness Anyone? How we can learn from/with our kids

Are we, the grown ups, responsible for destroying the happiness in this world?

We make our kids do things they are not willing at times ( getting ready to go to school in the morning is a classic example),  we make them listen to us making them do things that they reallu rather not (naturally they think we know what we are doing and eventualy unwillingly they have to listen to us st the end). Do we ever stop and really appreciating what they, our kids have to teach us?  They actually can teach us a thing or two if we pay attention, they are unspoilt little humans.   They don’t stress over things unless we make a big deal about something that doesn’t even matter sometimes. They enjoy the tiniest (in adults opinion, useless) things like sticks, leaves even empty boxes. They try to find happinesd and joy in anything they come across. No rules, the only rule being have fun while being sensitive to others feelings.

I feel that childlike happiness is a gift, that is a feeling of true happiness. As we grow old we are taught more responsibility, which is fine, but why do most people have to let go of that pure happiness and embrace lesder values such as selfishness, stress and competitiveness. It is sad isn’t it?

I watch my kids giggle and play, be in a world of their own being happy. When asked “what do you want to do today?”, they sometimes say “just stay home and play” eith a smile. Which makes me realise the best things in life are really free. I must admit I managed to be more like a child till I had my own children. Now I have become somewhat “grownup”, which means stressed out more and less fun. I do think it’s to do with feeling tired ( as I feel I will never catchup on the years of sleepless nights raising young kids).

Watching my kids made me realise that I need to go back to that happy state again. Life is all about feeling happy and joy, isn’t it?

So I find my self asking what is it that I can do to really be happy. Non of the material things pops into my head, for me it is a life filled with exciting adventures with my family. Teaching my kids about the real world, the values of kindness and caring, learning to live respecting ourselves and the people and things around us. And to see my kids grow up with humble values that can make the world a better place to live.

So I am afraid my husband calls me a dreamer, as I don’t believe in the “conventional” ways of doing things. I have formed different opinions about the current ways of human living. I seriously feel trapped in this society. I face things and people that I find me asking the question “why?”, all the time. To me I find people have become more selfish and overly competitive to the point we as a human raise are loosing the grip on reality. To me humans are not being “smart” we are being brainwashed. I honestly feel that our world is run by companies/politicians for their own gain. It is a game of marketing things, it seems anything can and will be marketed so well (to their targeted market). These marketeers gets into the human phyc figure out the weaknesses of their target market then they say what they want to hear. Alot of us gets conned into believing them or if not it manges to enter our subconscious to later influence our decisions. So essentially they manage us humans from thinking for ourselves either knowingly or subconsciously we are influenced. Is it just me who feels like this? Surely not… I see a few people on social media saying similar things, and that makes me feel like there is a chance of being free from tjiz narket driven materialistic world. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for setting goals and reaching them, but in doing so we should not let go of our values that makes us smart humans. Smart enough to learn from our mistakes and look after things and be kind to each other and the world we live in ( who knows how long this world will be here as we know it, it is a ball of rotating elements and energy after all).

So getting back to my dreams, I felt the need to let go of the need to make money (say for retirement or for kids) and my materialistic things in my life, and travel the world to grow closer as a family, as a way of teaching my children about the world, people and cultures, and what we should think about as humans in terms of survival of our kind and the rest of the world that makes it possible for us to live on this earth. Not live a short sighted life but a life that supports many other lives.

Most kids if they have not been influenced by TV, Internet or magazines they tend to be more happy and eager to learn and experience new things. But if they get obsessed with things like TV their own imagination dissappears and they become people who want things that they are told will find happiness (smiley faces on TV brainwashing them to want things thag adds no value) if they have this and that toy. So as parents I believe we need to be more responsible bringing up our future generations with more instilled values with a sense of our real human qualities and less of this materialistic brain numbing stuff. Wouldn’t it be better to teach them to be kind and loving to themselves and every one and everything on this planet, be unselfish, be happy, be able to see marketing for what it is ( making money for some giant company), be smart thinkers, not get caught up in a fake made up world of glamor living, be real, be true to themselves and others, live a peaceful uncompetitive life helping others in need?

For the love of humsnity, am I wrong to hope for this?

Finding Ways To Feel Happy: Letting Go Of Negative Feelings Towards Others

“Holding on to negative feelings and past circumstances is like placing a lock on your soul.”
― Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life

Well….  true, feelings are subjective and valid within a belief system that is your own.

I recently discovered that I am a feeling based person which might have increased a tad once I became a mother.     However I believe that our feelings are our instinct warning us what is right and what is wrong according to the values we have instilled in us.   My feelings are and will be different from another, yet my feelings are valid for my self according to what I believe in.

There is always a danger in feeling too stronger feelings (especially negative , hateful ones) and hanging on to those feelings.  They tend to suck your happiness away.  To maintain happiness we need to let go of our extreme hateful feelings and replace them with neutral or more positive ones.

I have learnt fist hand, that giving into the negative feelings and hanging on to them can harm your own happiness and/or other’s.  For example I have very strong negative feelings towards two people that came into my life as a result of marriage.  They just do not have the same values as me and the things they have done in the past had generated long lasting extremely negative repulsive feelings towards them.  If  I show my real feelings towards them I can hurt the ones I love the most.   Not only that, showing those negative feelings towards someone and actually feeling them ruins my happiness, increases my anxiety which is bad for my health and well being.   I had gotten worse with time and not better at handling those repulsive feelings towards them.  Everything they do I see it in a negative light.  Something had to be done for my sanity…

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Happy Mother’s Day!

In Australia we celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday of May.  So today 10th of May 2015 is Mother’s Day here.

So here is a real heart felt wish for all the mothers, past, present and future; Happy Mother’s Day today and every day!!

For the first time I have received my fully hand drawn card from my 3 year old son.   It is a real treat to receive true love from your kids isn’t it?  His day care teacher told me how careful he was when he was making this card taking such meticulous care to make it perfect for mummy and she said to treasure that memory of him.   It almost brought me to tears the way he tried keeping it a secret but really badly wanting to tel me that he had something special for me and how he really meant his “I Love you Mummy” with a squishy cuddle for me.

I only understood what unconditional love really meant the day I held my first born in my hands for the first time which is a moment I will never forget.  My true happiness is my children ( If you don’t know I have two, one girl, 5 and one boy, 3) and they have the ability to make me happy just by looking at them.  So today I am planning to just spend my time with them,  which is what I am going to do just as soon as I finish this quick post 🙂

Being a mother is a wonderful gift that no one can take away from you…… ever.   So celebrate it and enjoy all the things only  a mother could feel….

Here is the card from Callum my 3year old, wishing me a happy mother’s day… according to his words  he is  “shaking his bottom” on the card 🙂

Happy Mother's Day
Happy Mother’s Day!

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